MLC is not recognized in the medical society as an illness. As for the therapist, I'm going to suggest that you find a counselor that you can meet up with (only you) for now. Why? Because a MLCer will only hear what they want to hear and because their brains are scrambled due to depression and issues w/those endorphins, they will give up entirely too easy and trust me, they can spin a story that will make a professional cry and be concerned about.
You have to drop the rope (this is not giving up), give him plenty of time and space to choke on and start living your life as if he's not coming back. You have to look out for you and your kids and just leave the man to do his own thing for now. Focus on YOU! You are the only one that can take care of yourself mentally, physically and emotionally right now. Seek out a counselor that will work w/you in a safe environment. BTW, I, personally, do not think your therapist was very good and to say what she did about reporting you to the authorities about your cutting episodes years ago was a low blow.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
