I believe you started out with a therapist as to work on communication between the two of you. But, the wires in their brain are so jumbled they can't even remember what they say from one second to the next. All you'll be doing is arguing further as you will say "we agreed to x" and he won't even remember that.
It will drive crazy and it will probably convince him that you guys don't get along.
The only chance you have with MLC is giving LOTS of time and space while you move forward. Sometimes when you take the pressure off them completely they slow themselves down.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
