We were married at 26 and had our first at 30 so I wouldn't call us young. I do feel she has felt she is labeled as a mother and only a mother. She was never diagnosed with pnd or I don't feel she ever had it, she always seemed to be happy to be a mother until the last 4 months.
Like I have said, I do recognize my own mistakes and am working very hard on myself but I do agree with you Cherry that she is just running away from all the responsibilities we had. She told me at Christmas that she felt sad that I don't 'get' her, this was after BD.