New to this. Is it really MLC or just an affair?

[Lone77]

Hi Sotto. H's actions are nothing less than I've come to expect. The hard part is that it's against D who obviously hasn't read the amount I have about MLC and so isn't able to detach from him or his anger.

I expected a grovelling text to her today as he's previously done when in nasty mode but nothing as yet. Before BD he was quite obnoxious to D and could go weeks without speaking to her over the smallest things. He is the opposite of what he was as all the material suggests he will be. I've given my D snippets re MLC but it's that balance of not wanting to get her too involved but also helping her to try and not take what he says to heart.

We had a lovely day today anyway to make up for last night, brunch at the beach, shopping, lunch and prosecco. (We live in the UK hence time difference).

Moving in with the OW is no big deal to me. I suspect she's in his apartment a lot anyway and given they've gone away etc together it's not as though it really changes things dramatically. I've also read the same comment re the A and the unstable basis of the R based on infidelity. I wonder how H can swap his masks from how he was with D last night and the knight in shining armour I expect he is with OW.

I actually feel sorry for him, he is losing the most precious thing he's ever had in our D. If/when he ever wakes up to the reality she may/may not want anything to do with him and it'll devastate him if he ever comes out of this place he's in.

How's your current sitch Sotto? xx