Life's a Dance-One Step Forward and Two Steps Back

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Melweb and 2Times- I believe there is a pattern here. The fact that these MLCers react the way they do probably brands them as chronically difficult people. Clearly, they all have a very low levels of coping. They always had unresolved issues that always lurked there and they never knew how to resolve those.

I think they would have sought out easy going people who can get along with most anyone. My suspicion is, although they may not have exhibited this level of dysfunction for quite some time, they were more difficult than the general population from the get-go and yes, we probably all made our excuses for them because most of us are "let's just get along" types.

I could probably get along okay with a serial killer. I am far from perfect but most people say I am out of the ordinary patient. I think my h would have needed this kind of personality to deal with a lot of his antics.

Now that I look back on it, my h was always having an issue with someone. He always had poor coping skills, truth be told. But not like this: where he hid in a room! I think he blew situations up and it was probably a way of re-directing anger that he did not know how to process.

I know a lot about his childhood and it does give me tremendous compassion as a wife and as a mother myself. As nutty as he seems, given what he went through, he should an even lower level of functioning statistically speaking.