So i completed the online divorce papers, i'll be divorced in 5-6 weeks. The irony is that it cost the exact amount that a pre-nup would have cost before we got married. Gotta love life.
I'm feeling better this morning after a short sleep. Going to detach entirely during the time that she is still in the house.
I cannot trust her anymore and the OM coming down to my city is looming large. I like to believe that nothing will happen but people break their faith everyday. I still don't think it right to confront him, why... that's not my real problem, only a symptom.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
I still don't see how simply "being divorced" is the solution to your problems. It's likely not going to "wake her up", and now, in a month, you'll just be divorced. I wish you well, but I believe you will look back on this in regret.
Don't think that I will regret it. I have made the most logical decision to move forward, for me at least. I will not wait for her to have a PA, I need to get as far away from this mess as I can. I've got to cut it clean.
I realised that her want to escape started about 3 years ago when she wanted to become an international air hostess, with a 1 year old baby. She never got the job tho. Does that make any difference?
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
Having lived with my H's A for 2 years, I'm in shock over how fast you act on everything. This is definitely not Divorcebusting. You've had what, one counseling session? You label yourself as an extremely impatient person and just can't help yourself? You're being overreactive and you need to slow down *and you know it*. This is not logic, this is pure emotion.
You can always get divorced, but you don't get another chance to save your M.
Please realize that what you do now, will impact your son for the rest of his life. I haven't seen him mentioned once except in your signature.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
You can move forward without immediately filing for a divorce. You can stop focusing on everything WW is doing and focus on your own well-being. GAL. Be the person only a fool would leave.
I think the concern is that you've been changing your mind about what you want based on what your WW does. If you want a divorce, fine. But just the other day, you were convinced that WW is out of the fog and that it should be easy to get the R back.
Well, do I wait for her to cheat on me, or do I divorce her so that she can?
I know that I'm moving fast, I need to get the book, this is total emotions. I do see it as a way of detaching tho.
Dealing with her about our son and dealing with her about us are two different things. She wants weekday custody of our son, with me on weekends. Our son is already asking questions.
I know that I only really get 1 chance to save my M, but what about saving myself?
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
You're not detaching. Your re-acting based on her words/actions.
You want to save yourself? What are you doing to save yourself? Don't say getting a divorce because that's not going to change anything except for legal marital status.
Of course you don't know if you can trust her again. She's still involved with OM. Everything has just happened! You haven't taken the time to sort things out. There's no need to rush through anything.
