Life's a Dance-One Step Forward and Two Steps Back

[2Times2Many]

Mel, I sometimes wonder if my sitch is really MLC, too. And I worry that I'm making excuses for him or trying to find hope that this will change.

I think you have to go with your gut and it's part of doing all you can for your M, regardless of the sitch. And in your case, it's a great example to set for your boys re upholding commitments and not running away or throwing in the towel when the going gets tough.

It sounds like your H has the same confusion most of the MLCers have. He's flipping back and forth between what he knows somewhere deep down is the right thing to do and the lure of what he's become addicted to (the A). I think that is something you have to let him figure out himself, unfortunately.

But I do believe that they compare the OP with the LBS, so keep working on you and being the one only a fool would leave.