Thank you for all the advice 1gr8dad. Unfortunately, I already messed up yesterday. I went on Facebook and realized he blocked me. I sent him a text asking him about it and he said he thought since I didn't want to see him, it would be better if we couldn't see each other on there, either. I really wanted to tell him I thought it was an a$$hole move, but I said "OK, that's fine." and let it go. I guess that could be a baby step in the right direction since I didn't tell him off for it. lol
Klassic congrats and well handled. Yes a babystep 180 but very admirable nonetheless. The next couple of months will be all about babysteps in all kind of new arenas. WRT FB, this is probably a blessing in disguise and will help you detach for now.
Also, if he's dating I would say it doesn't take an expert to realize this is a futile attempt to replace a wife. If something happens it will either not last very long or end in disaster. It takes time to heal after a 13 year marriage; jumping into another R right after will likely have a poor outcome for him. There's no need for you to worry about this kind of stuff now. We turn over our WAS to God so that He can watch over them.
Also, I know how much it hurts you feeling that he seems to not care for you. I'm sure it's also hard for him being without you. I think he does care deep down, only that his pain and hardened heart will not let him show it because RIGHT NOW his pain of being with you outweighs the benefits.
I think one of the big challenges of separation is the grief of loosing the person who was closest to you, who had your back no matter what, who was your deepest friend and confident. Trying to swap them out with another will never work. What worked for me and was a hidden blessing is all the time I now have to cultivate my new life and strengthen my relationship with my Daughter, Family, and close friends, and make new meaningful relationships. This board also a way to feel part of an engaged community and also to give back to it and feel a sense of purpose. I don't NEED my wife, all I need is what is around me
Anyhow, for 1 week separated I think you are doing exceeding well. I remember I was a wreak: couldn't sleep or eat. Keep up the good work. Be strong. Avoid temptation. Rebuild yourself into Klassic 2.0: new and improved. If he comes back, and he probably will at some point, you will be in an amazing place to entertain reconciliation!
Me37 W33 T:8 M:5 D3 BD 11/2015 EA+PA w boss 12/2015 S 3/2016
Im stronger because I had to be Im smarter because of my mistakes happier because of the sadness Ive known and now wiser because I learned
