WAW still behaving angry and moving to divorce

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It has started, and oddly enough I am pretty calm. And the WAW is in a very huffy mood to say the least. She scooped up a bunch of boxes with odds and ends as well as some clothing and packed up the car and said she may be back in a few hours or not, depending on if the water was turned on at her new place.

I offered to help and she yelled a number of different things at me. I asked what was in one of the boxes and she yelled some other things about working with her to divide things up each night this week, but I was always too busy. I apologized for being busy. She walked out yelling some other things. She reluctantly let me help her carry some stuff out to her car.

D17 then muttered how she only tried packing some things up one night, not every night this week. She then asked why her mom should be getting so much stuff and me nothing. I said not to worry, as I can replace whatever is really needed. D17 then said be careful, she seems really stressed and upset about all of this. I agreed, but I will put on a good face and help where I can and not cause any waves. The sooner she can get what she needs and provide us some space, the better chance we will all have with some peace in the short term, and hopefully some head clearing in the long term for all of us.

Sad side note, D17 mentioned that she was working on a resume for an internship she is trying to get in with, that she was jotting down some things she has done in the past, and she remembered attending a school event about a year and a half ago, where she recounted that there was an activity where they were sharing some things with a group. She said that she recalled sharing that she thought her parents would be getting divorced soon, and cried for sometime that evening. She had never shared this with me until tonight. I asked why she was now sharing, and she said, that she wanted me to understand why she was accepting this at this time. I inquired why she thought we would be divorcing a year and a half ago, as I am starting to think I have been real blind to so much.
She replied, she was not completely sure, but she told me that mer mother constantly complained about everything about me. She would try and tell her mom to address it with me, but she never did. Then my D17 would start to defend me when her mom would go on about her complaints. She thinks, that is why her mom has detached from her as well as me.
My D17 could see issues a year and half ago. Oh how my heart breaks at this news.

Oh goodness, how we LBH, are so blind and deaf to the pleadings and complaints of our W. I truly am sad it took me to long to find the DR and learn of DBing.

But I can still put up a fight and if or when there is no more hope to reconcile, I will know that I did all that I could, and be in a better place for whatever the future may hold.

Wish me a peaceful sleep so that I may have a clear mind, and appear calm in the face of the chaos that will ensue tomorrow as she brings her family that has been convinced that I am the evil monster in all of this, to further dismantle what is my home of it's possessions and fond memories of my family.

It's just stuff, but it will be the memories that get dismantled that will cause the most pain, I am sure.