You could text W and let her know you'd like to drop off a card and see D, and ask when a good time would be. Then hopefully D will be all over you when you see her, and you'll have a super great gift for her that she LOVES. (Let's see what might be better than money...)And you focus all your love on her. Then leave.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Hi thornton. Just stopping by to see how you're doing. I think NYGal is onto something good.
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
Hey Thornton. I have been reading a bunch of stuff today from older stories on the board. Yours was one of them. Man you really DB'ed the hell out of her the first time around a few years back. I really got a lot of encouragement reading yours and others success stories. Keep your chin up, I truly believe you'll turn this ship back around heading in the right direction. I just believe it may take a little more time.
Me-LBH, 44 Spouse-WAW, 41 Married for 9 years S, 7 S, 5 BD - November 20th 2015
I think the e-card was a good in-between Thornton. I vacillate back and forth even in my own stitch about responding to texts however. I almost think it would have been better IMHO to not have responded to her text. After all the intent was to let your/her D know that you were thinking about her on her BDay and not your W.
It's going to be hard again I think because I don't know how long until the next communication will be from W, but leave it in her court. I find that it is almost worse when we do hear from them, because it is never anything that we want to hear, more often just empty communication.
Me:33 H:34 T: 3yrs M: 2yrs H depression triggered and we are "unhealthy": 7/15 H wants to "make it work" 12/28 BD: 3/10/16
I really struggled this weekend with missing W and missing D's bday party but was able to pull out of my funk.
I know this is a marathon and not a sprint, so I'll refocus my efforts on GAL and my goals in the gym. BTW, I've regained the 14 pounds I lost after bomb so I'm feeling really good about that!
