Juju, your post struck me because it was almost word for word the same things my friends who know H, tell me. And thank you for the lovely compliments!
I don't know that I have a particular timeframe in mind for dating again, but I left my home less than a week ago and am in the middle of a grieving process. I'm not even tempted to date, it's not on my radar - my focus is on processing the loss of my M and my home, all my friends and my life as I knew it, and establishing myself in a new place. I am so happy and grateful that I have a wonderful son who is taking such good care of me.
If someone pays me a compliment or looks twice at me on the street, I'll take it for what it is - a little boost to my confidence. If I meet someone by chance who I feel a great connection with, I'm good with a friendship. I would immediately let whoever it was, know where I am at and that it wouldn't be fair to either of us to enter into a new relationship.
But that's not something I expect to encounter - I'm sure I'm not sending any signals of being available at this time.
As many other women in their 50's, I'm perfectly fine by myself.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
