Again DDJ, I agree with what you are being told. It is especially difficult still in the same house, my WW was all over the place and would seem like she was getting a dose of reality but will the next day push the kids a side, lie to us all and go see the OM for a bit. My WW has been in her fog for over a year now, she thinks she put him aside and committed to me but reading here has shown me she hadn't done any where near the work she needed to do. Only she can do it, you can't push it, something I look back on and see I was guilty of. I tried pushing it along and made it worse, now I understand the need to detach and stop trying to figure out what she is thinking or doing. It is hard, I still have bad days especially when I miss my kids but I see how necessary it is. Focus on you and you alone, she is being selfish, you need to be to. It's a very strange mentality for me as I have regularly put friends and family first but it is now the time for you.
