We never fought at all - there were just these stony silences, I was too scared to rock the boat and felt I was submissive and bowed to what he wanted me to be/do.
When I say I was having a MLC - everything seemed to happen at once. It was like a switch was flicked and I suddenly decided I had had enough of being virtually ignored.
So it sounds like you didn't want to be submissive anymore.
And rather than try to work that out, your solution, and his too, was to separate.
