14 days of sheer hell

[DDJ]

@sandi2 - we all missed your honest input.

@all of you - thank you as always for making me question my reality, I have always been naive and need a kick up the butt, it appears, everyday.

So why do i think she's out of the fog:
-She is warm to me, and not in a state of confusion anymore.
- She says that the turnaround came when i said i could not trust her and she says that she wants to rebuild the trust.
- She says she is committed to us and will continue to go for couples counselling (we went last week, but i'm hoping that in a few months she can go on her own, if she wants to).
- from what she says and i can gauge, she has not chatted to him since Sunday, and she is definitely not chatting with him when she gets home anymore.

So why do i think she's NOT out of the fog:
- I am certain that I am plan B, after careful consideration, she stated "how can I have a relationship with him, he's in another city, when would i see him, every second month?"
- She says that she still wants to see him at the end of this month for lunch, just to obtain closure. She says that I can trust her.

Okay, so what do i do now? Do i "push" her back into the fog and attach, or do i continue to detach and see what's happening?

@Sandi2 - how will i ever know that she is really out of the fog?