Today W emailed me to say a young friend of ours died. He was only 33. Suicide most likely. He was troubled and struggling for the past few years. Conflicted about being gay and not accepted by his parents. W really helped him. Listened to him, reassured him. He used to come over to our house just to talk. We were the couple he looked up to as an example that he too could find happiness. I reminded W how much she had helped him, and how much he loved her. She wrote back, yeah, and remember how much he loved the dogs and they loved him? I wanted to respond, but I didn't. Wanted to comfort her but beyond my one email back, I didn't. I don't know if this is the time to throw DB out the window but really, what else could I say? This is all so wrong. Sad.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
W texted and asked if I'm willing to sit down with her when she gets home from vacation. I said OK, when were you thinking? Midweek because the snowstorm has left her "stuck"wherever she is for 3 more days. Curious that she texted me while on vacation w ow. I'm trying not to have expectations about what she wants to talk about.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Sorry to hear about your friend, NYGal... As a parent, I really just can't understand how anyone could be that way. Such a tragic and completely unnecessary loss...
Hi NYG, I'm sorry to read that sad news and I wonder if she wants to talk to someone who also knew your friend well perhaps?
As for a possible meeting, I would encourage you to sit back and merely respond. You already helped push it along by asking when - but actually I would let her do that and you purely check your schedule and respond.
Have absolutely no expectations - that is important. You know already that your W will share her confusion with you and be planning her next trip with OW. That is unlikely to change in the short term so please take anything she says with a huge pinch of salt and as a minimum, expect her to be all done with OW before you would even begin to discuss a possible R.
Hope you are still busy with GAL and having a nice weekend xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
W wants to meet me at a game where some of her work colleagues will be ... then out to dinner. Public appearances? Hmmmmmm... I don't think the next trip with ow has been planned. I think it may be over with ow, but I'm trying not to have expectations about that. Thursday evening. Keep me in your thoughts and prayers, please! Wonka, where are you when I need you?????
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
With regard to your WW, my thinking is "until you are prepared to commit to our M. Then I am living my live free of commitment to you. That includes public events where I may be presented as your spouse"
When you are ready to give up OW and be fully transparent then we can discuss"
You put not wasting money on a cancelled trip above our M. That is unacceptable to me.
So WW thanks but no thanks.
In the meanwhile move on with your life and be your own first choice.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
V, thanks but that won't work for me. She is reaching out to see if we can reconcile, most likely. I'm at least going to listen.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
