Thanks for your reply - I don't think he thinks there is anything wrong with him though. It's all my fault for leaving.
He was completely unapproachable at the end of our marriage. I don't think I've got it in me to say I was sorry to someone who clearly is not.
He treated me like I was something he had stepped on.
Even writing this makes me wonder why I would want to salvage a relationship like that.
He needs to take ownership for his part in the marriage breakdown before we can even contemplate it.
Me:54 Him:58 3 Adult children between us. I am H 2nd wife. My 1st marriage. Married:8 Together: 12 Separated: 1 Aug 2015 Status: Separated In NZ we need to be separated 2 years before we can divorce.