Wii, you nailed it, this is my dad's MO. I don't think there is anything else going on, he just gets emotional and defensive of his wife often. We had it out on the phone a little while ago. It wasn't initially good, he didn't agree with me, I didn't agree with him, he got into how I shouldn't be feeling anything regarding NG anymore, but luckily it ended eventually in "I love you's".
On top of this, I asked ex to take D8 on the day after my birthday, even though it was my birthday because I had something adult planned. His answer? "well, I'll have a 3 days weekend with her before that, so try to find someone else". I can't believe him. He can't take an extra day because he has 3 in a row with her?! If he had plans, I would understand, but what? It's too much time with his daughter? There should be no such thing especially when you have her about 35% of the time. And D8 cried ot me the other night as to why our time isn't equal. I tell her because of work, but he the truth is he doesn't want it. I can never ever tell her that. She's better when she doesn't see him often, but when she gets an extra taste, she wants more. And then my ex FIL's exGF (weird, right?) is going ot leave her husband and wants to talk to me about divorce and custody. She texts this to me today.
and yes, I do have a hard time of letting those go that I love. I still loved him, I still think he is a good guy in an awful place. And yes, I guess call it PTSD from the affair, but when a guy jumps right to the next after claiming to love me, I spin. My compassion takes over sometimes when I should just be pissed and moved on. It's just not me.
I need Jamaica to come fast!
Even with the stress, I am letting it all go today. I'm actually in a better place today. I'm not as miserable as I sound. Actually I can't stop smiling when I think about vacation!
