I think about my kids and,think,how selfish would that be
This is exactly what my blessed sister would tell me when my emotional pain became too much for me to handle. She was exactly right. I know that is not the legacy I want to leave my children. I want my children to see a man who rose above his struggles and embraced life despite the adversity.
Until BD I never experienced emotional pain. It's real. very real. But it does lessen over time. Also, each time that it rears it's ugly face again, you are better able to cope with it.
These feeling are normal. We have all had them at some point. Allow yourself to have them. But definitely seek help. Keep us in the loop.