My WW is committed to the marriage and does not want me to give up on her and us.
She said that she cannot build the trust again, i need to, but she will be honest with me from now on. I was never an insecure person, but in this first case she made me someone else, i don't like that person and hope to never see him again. I was very lucky that this was just an infatuation and the OP turned her away. I cannot say that i was blessed, because I believe that we are all blessed, we sometimes just cannot see it.
It should be easy to get the R back, and counselling is scheduled every week indefinitely.
She is definitely out of the fog, is thinking clearly and understands that she is a married woman that lost control, and should not have. I need to make sure that i do not "avenge" her, and i will try my best.
You are wrong on so many levels that I don't even know where to begin. She is not out of the fog, and this is not going to be easy. She does have to earn back your trust!
You are way too wishy-washy with everything. You come on board and think you can give others the secret to how to save the M with a WW, and by the next day you see it's not quite that simple. Then, you are ready to divorce and just move on, .......and say you will just help others who have a WW willing to stay. But wait....b/c in the snap of your fingers....she's out of the fog and willing to go to counseling (but I thought you were already in counseling) and you are saying this should be easy and will be fixed soon.
Well, I am sorry for what I think is in store for you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
