Thank you all! I responded before I checked in here, with a simple "No".

To which H sent, "Are you sure" "I feel sick. I am so sad knowing that you are sad and I am hurting you"

Seeing that you all mentioned that this is just his guilt talking I have not responded to the last texts and have just deleted them. Jeep74 I think it is a guilt check and he has done it before, so my 180 is to not react and not respond.

I have a post it note on my computer with DETACH in large letters - LiM I have read your stich and am so proud how you managed to weather the storm thus far.

Since I can't mind read, as rd500, as pointed out, I need to just acknowledge that nothing he says holds any weight. H is only thinking about him and his own path and I am not joining.

I actually feel better today, accepting that our M is over and it was his choice, not mine. Today I feel like I am becoming more detached and resigned.

Me:33 H:34
T: 3yrs M: 2yrs
H depression triggered and we are "unhealthy": 7/15
H wants to "make it work" 12/28
BD: 3/10/16