I wouldn't read into that in the least. I may be wrong, but the "do you hate me" statement screams justification. In other words, if you say no (which I'd be willing to bet he is wishing), then that relieves him of any guilt. My W did the same thing, and it was nothing more than a guilt check for her.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
