We're not telling you that your marriage is over. We're just telling you to detach and ACT "as if." This is what you need to do if you want to fight for your M. Dont give up if you still want to fight. There is a big difference between giving up and detaching. They are not the same. Go back and read the book again because you are missing some key points. His text? Its shows me just how conflicted he is. I DONT think this is over but you have got to detach and start working on YOU. Stop worrying about him. You don't even need to respond to such a stupid text. Just ignore it. My WW had restarted her A after we separated. I was DB'ing and didn't know the A was back on BUT she still noticed my changes even though was showing no interest in working on our M. Today, we are starting to piece our M back together.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
