One of my problems was very rarely saying no, I have always done things for her. Even, for example, she has filled the car we have with gas 6 times in the almost 3 years we have been here because she always said she didn't like it. She never liked driving here so I drove everywhere. All these things and many others. I have friends saying to me now that I treated her like a princess, and she will get mad if I start saying no to her. I'm not saying I haven't made mistakes too, I am human and especially under stressful times I haven't been as positive or as outgoing as I normally would be. Some arguments went on to long for which are both at fault for. I know what I need to work on and have been, she has said on several occasions that she sees how much better I am with the kids, guess she doesn't trust it can be with her or doesn't want to believe it. Have had several people say she doesn't seem to know what she wants, so I just need to detach like you say and 'let her go'.
