Cali, thank you again so much for the advice. It is much needed and appreciated!
Ugh.. I can't believe her again, i don't know how to deal with her insanity. I'm trying so hard to keep her from pulling me down into the mlc abyss but she keeps pulling me down.
I finally got in control of financial stuff after last week. I had been telling her I needed everything since way before she left. Well she didn't pay anything for the last 2 months and maxed out a credit card so I'm dealing with all that but il figure it out and I'm more worried about custody.
Tonight I get a text that she wants to take them on a trip this weekend. After talking to the kids tonight I asked to talk to her about it before she got a chance to hang up like normal. She told me she wasn't getting enough time with them. I told her it was the schedule she picked, but I was willing to work with her so she had time with them other than just after school and that I wanted to have them every other week and I would be willing to work with her on her trip if I could have time next week. She wouldn't agree. I told her it wasn't acceptable and I wouldn't go that long without seeing my kids. She got mad and said she wasn't agreeing to anything and she was unorganized and needed time to research custody arrangements. I told her split time was fair and what she told me she would do and I wouldn't let her take my kids from me. Then she said she had concerns, I asked what they were because I am a great dad and I deserve my kids and I wouldn't let her take them from me. She then got mad and said I never said you were a bad dad, etc etc. I said I didn't say that and then she said you just said that verbatim and was ready to defend it to the death (she's always twisting things like this on me). I told her I didn't and She insists I did, I said I wasn't going to take credit for something I didn't do and I wasn't going to argue. She wouldn't tell me her "concerns"and I told her she didn't have any when she was out running around every weekend leaving me with them. Then she got po'd said what do you think I'm out going to the bar every weekend? I said your going out to concerts, etc staying out all night......and you don't have any problems with me then. Then she kept saying how she had to look out for the kids etc. she wouldn't hear any logic insisting I was out of order. I told her we needed to talk later and ended it.
I left a vm to ask her to call because it wasn't acceptable and we needed to figure it out. Crickets. An hour or so later I sent a text and told her I changed my work schedule so I could be back Friday to pick them up from school per our agreement and I wanted to work with her but needed more than 2 days notice and that it wasn't acceptable and I would like to talk to her about doing it the following weekend. Crickets...I sent another telling her as of now I was planning on picking them up from school as we agreed. Still nothing. I know I should shut up now but wanted a record of what is going on. Now I'm not sure what to do, what if she takes them Friday? I am calling my lawyer first thing in the morning but Idt she is in.
I'm so disgusted with her, she can go. I'm done with her, the woman I knew is dead and gone and I deserve much better. However, I'm worried sick about the situation wth my kids. I know she is going to try to get primary custody and take off, deep in my gut I have a strong feeling that is what she is going to try to do and I'm gong nuts. My meeting with my lawyer can't come soon enough I feel like a nervous wreck. I really don't know what to do about this weekend, this is so insane.
