He's on match.com

[1gr8dad]

Klassic I'm in a somewhat similar situation to yourself. You can see my full story here.

The only difference is that my W and I betrayed each other in the MR. I stopped my addiction/behaviour but she continues her A and wants a divorce while I hope for reconciliation.

I know the turmoil you must feel on two fronts: the guilt of causing the one you love pain and then also dealing with the pain they are causing you by abandoning you and moving on seamlessly into another R. While some people may think we're getting what we deserved: you cheated, spouse left; no one really knows all the details and how the marriage broke down. It's typically said an A is a side effect of a growing deficiency in the MR. Sure that could grow into an addition and it almost always is when it comes to an A.

I've tried to get feedback from the community here on LRTs that should or shouldn't be used when the LBS is the one who betrayed (which is the case for both of us).

In a nutshell the LRTs are more for us: the LBS. This is regardless if the WAS is WW, MLC, or just done with the MR.

You need to detach. Why? He's asked you to give him his space. You must honour that.

PigPen and Phoebe hit the nail on the head. You both need time to heal. DBers would recommend "The Solo Partner" by Phil Deluca.

I know this is all easier said than done. But that's what fellow DBers are here for. Keep posting on your thread and anyone else's you follow. Good luck, I will be monitoring your Sitch and offering support where I can.