I am puzzled, how would you even do 50/50 custody across borders with a 4 hour drive? What schools would they go to? Do you swap every month or every week? The overhead would be atrocious.

Luckily my WW got an apartment a mile from my house, in order to be in the same school district which I guess is a very important legal consideration.

Me-LBH, 48
Spouse-WW, 48
Married for 19 years
Son, 12
BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding)
BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA)
WW filed D February 2016
WW moved out April 2016