If she is still in the military, can't you report her to her commander for the affair? They will investigate and order her to separate, and thus keep the OM away from you kids?
Oh she is still in and sitting pretty. The thing is, as my lawyer put it, if I were to report her the best case scenario for her would be a demotion and reduction in pay, plus the shame - and the navy nursing community is very small.
However, given the fact that she was high ranking, and a director (ie, head of the clinic) and there was inappropriate contact in her office with a man not her husband who was a contractor that did work for her in her building (the OM) , her career will be sunk. Totally. Which means much much less in child support from her (keep in mind, I gave up a great career to move with her when we got married). And then there is the whole suspected fraternization with enlisted but I don't have solid proof but hearsay.
If it weren't for the kids, I would sink her ass. She is unfit for command and I fully believe that she should be booted. She had no concern for her career because she knows of the consequences.
As far as the OM, I talked to him once and told him if he ever came near my kids I'd break his legs.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
