Hey Merrick..Just wanted to drop you a (((((((((()))))))). Your W is sure a "tough nut" to crack as is my H. I would not go the route of hugging her either as TripleJ said. I think you tried something like that once before (a kiss) and it did stop her in her tracks but I don't think it's a worthwhile effort yet. IMHO, I believe the "love" that she does have for you is frozen in her heart and before she can start to accept your touch again, you've got to get her heart back. I don't know how you do that since I am in the same fight but I believe that once the ice is broken it would allow for some touch which would engulf her. You obviously aren't at this point.
I also think that not leaving is a good choice and a cheeseless tunnel for her but maybe there is some sort of solution to that extent?? I mean maybe there is something like what Eddy has that could work for you-say a trial S? For example, although Eddy doesn't live in his house anymore, neither does his W really. They trade time there w/kids on a schedule of 2-2-3. Maybe this is something to propose to your W as a test run to see if it "would" make a difference in your sit. I know you have some very strong ground for staying and I commend that to the fullest extent but maybe showing her how the $$ would come into play and the struggle w/kids and being away from home, and her alone would really be? Just an idea that might warrant some thought to switching up on her and letting her see how hard/different things really could be. Of course, you're the best judge at this since you know your sit and how your W would take this. Hope you had a good day in church. Tootles..........
