Had a very good conversation with H and have managed to come to an agreement. He started to be aggressive and I ask him why he was like that as there was no need. Then he said I didn't trust him to which I replied could he blame me. Then he said he was aggressive because he had already this conversation with his ex and she took him to the cleaners. I validated and told him that by now he should know that I'd not do that. Did tell him few truth darts as it was appropriate. At one point he told me that I wasn't right in the head, I said I don't see why I should have given his housemate information when it wasn't his business!
Then I added that it was a shame that we didn't give us a second chance as there would still be the question what if! He went silent, then added that he has seen it with his parents. Clearly it's easier to run away than deal with issues. At another point he mentioned about buying our house, but realised what he had said and added separately. Then went to move on talking about the kids saying that they will be with their mum and dad, he paused and added separately.
As I said a good conversation. I got what I wanted. He got what he wanted. I did praised him for not introducing OW to the kids, and he said he had no intention!
All I can say is what a waste. I'm getting on with my life. Got asked to coach colleagues and just had a training day on it. I can't wait to start. A year ago I didn't have the skills that I have learnt from DB, and now I feel I can help others.
Am I still hopeful that I might save my M, after that conversation the door has just been left ajar, just enough to let a thin ray of hope. I reckon H will have a lot to do and from what he has told me he isn't prepared to do his share of the work!
