Hey RAI,

Yes you are right that was a lot of mind reading and speculating as I was trying to answer OTW question of why I am so hung up on this wedding.

From his perspective it because I am worried about OM and W moving on.

What ever the reason I am her to save the MR. I am doing that because for my kids they deserve to have both parents together. I chose to stick by my decision to marry this woman. And because I think the problems we have fixable. And lastly is because I do love my W. The mind says one thing and heart says another right now.

As the time goes on I am less attached. My emotions are not running away like they used to. I feel more OK. I realize what is happening and I know I will be ok. A big part of that is knowing that I have a place to live to call my new home.

Also a big part of that is this forum. So thank you to all that have helped me.

I did not know that equation, googled it and it means Some Will Some Wont so what - Next.


Me late 30's
W mid 30's
T 15, M 10
S4, S7
ILYBNILWY June 2015
In house S July 2015
W rings off Oct 2015
My ring off Feb 2015
Separate houses June 2016