Live-In WAW VII--April Fools

[TripleJ]

Merrick,

First off, since all my adopted hockey teams are losers, I have decided to adopt the Sharks for Betsey's sake. So you know the AVs will advance.

Okay, my two cents here. Although Seattle's suggestion of hugging is not a bad one, IMHO it isn't the right time for you to try that.

I don't see enough positives in your sitch to warrant something warm such as a hug. Reading what your W has said lately and her actions, I don't think it would be wise to initiate that typw of touch. I just feel like she will find fault in it and you don't need that.

I also read that she has a real problem with you being a great dad. Always thinking you are undermining her. I am so sorry you have to hear those words.

But if I may make a suggestion. I was wondering if you ever tried to show her the effects of how she is around the kids?

What I mean is, have you showed her that you being a great dad is all about you and that her being a great mom is all about her? You are a great dad because that is what you are and what you choose to be. She can not determine that for you. No one can except you. Just like SHE is the only one who can determine whether she is a good mother or not.

All I hear in your posts is how much she whines and cries and screams that you are out to get her, that you are planting seeds for taking the children away. Honestly, I am actually getting pretty tired with her for you.

I think she needs to realize that the role of mother is all up to her, not you. So, how do you show that to her? I don't know if there is an answer without telling her so. Just flat out say that it is not up to Merrick to determine what kind of mother you will be, its up to Merrick's W.

It seems nothing you do directly has put any chinks in the wall, no cracks whatsoever, and I feel for you kind sir. You have not had a break in a long time, which means one thing, things aren't working.

There has to be something to bring that wall down. Ya think?

Triple J