Just got caught up with your sitch, GWH. I'm really sorry that you are in this situation. I don't have a lot to offer, but I do understand the betrayal of a wayward spouse all too well.

Detaching, I'm learning, is so very easy to talk about, but the reality is that it's extremely difficult, and takes time. It's for our own protection, but we're not at all accustomed to having to detach from the very same person we've spent so many years attaching ourselves to. Intellectually it makes sense, but emotionally... not so much.

I just wanted you to know I'm reading and wishing you the best.

H: 44, Me: 45
Married: 20 y Together: 25 y
no kids
Walk away: 12/15
Asked for temp separation 12/25/15
PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had)
H filed for D 5/16