Heather congratulations on your promotion. I hope you take it. You've worked so hard and come so far in this short time (i know it doesn't feel short, but really 4 years isn't that long in the broadest scheme of things)
Kids will be kids. What's normal for Cal to do at 21 is so not normal for a 50 year old to do. I'm glad she sees that.
Best to watch and wait. This pot smoking could be a phase. If it turns out to be something more, you are there for her. I know this is harder to do as a parent than for me to type here.
Sending you hugs and love and light xoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver