Thanks for the great support Cherry We do seem to be going through oddly similar situations.
What do I think brought my H back the first time? Well, he is a creature of habit for sure and I also think he actually likes being in a relationship and having another person there to rely on. He also does not like to make decisions (he would rather have someone else make a decision so he can pass the blame if need be) so I think when I "decided" to try and work things out with him he just floated along and hoped for the best. But, as you said, you and I worked on our marriages and worked on ourselves through this time period. Our H's did nothing constructive...and so we are both right back where we started (just a little more frustrated and bitter because of it!).
And yes, this is an awesome community. I could not have gotten this far without the support of great people like you.
Detachment is so hard. I work at it every second. There has been the odd moment were he has been almost friendly or almost seems to have missed me and I have to remind myself not to react, not to get my hopes up, not to read to much into it. And it is the hardest thing ever!
We do seem to be going through oddly similar situations.
