Sandi, I was also re-reading the 37 rules and had a quick question.
In number 32. Do not believe anything they say and 50% of what they do. Your spouse will speak in absolute negatives because he/she is hurting and scared.
You mention they are scared, I'm sure every individual is different but what are they scared of. Is there a fear of loosing the M when they say things like they are so suffocated, contolled, empty, numb etc?
I have also read different threads and posts about Facebook etc, my W has done nothing with her Facebook, not changed marital status, removed pictures, none of this but I had noticed she doesn't 'like' or comment on any of her own families posts, pictures of nieces and nephews etc. I have removed her but not the family and still happy to 'like' their pictures from time to time. It's something I also have done so didn't want to change that part of me, I have been posting more about my own coming and goings and being out and about alone or with my kids since I removed her as a 'friend'. Her family have mentioned from time to time to keep in touch with them but I do keep it limited and don't talk about her or ask about her. Mostly, it is an Uncle that calls once a week or so and keeps me up to date with how the family are.
