niryANa

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Without proof you are just a grieving man lashing back. With proof you are not accepting blame for her choice. I just feel you are a scapegoat. I made the point so that in your kids eyes you would nit be painted as the culprit here.

So firstly it removes some of the tarnish and blame that you have been saddled with.SSecondly your kids know you were wronged and not that you did wrong. Thirdly you KNOW heart and soul, this is all her. Fourth it is the truth. That is important.


In such a case people often ask if you want to be married or to be right. In this case you will be divorced anyway. You have nothing to lose. Txhubby amongst others could tell you how that could help get your W back.
TThere are many stories here about that. Yes I believe this works but my primary reason for all this talk is to help you.

I know you are uncomfortable with this but I don't want to see you walked on. Enough is enough. You have nothing to lose.

So if I were you I would get proof and confront. This is just my opinion so I, too would like to hear other voices.

When you settle your thoughts, you need to focus on you again.
But don't sweep this away. Release the truth and then move on with your life. Do not dwell exclusively on this.

For the record I think you are already ready for the shiitstorm that is about to hit your family. You will be strong and get through this WITH them.