Depressed to WW

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We talked again Sunday evening. It started with us finalizing our taxes. Then she asked if I wanted to talk about telling the kids. (I'm not ready for that yet) I said I'm still processing my thoughts and haven't had a chance to talk to my counselor about it yet. She said we could get a mediator involved to make this cheaper and get it going next week.

I felt I needed to stop and ask about the OM (EA). So I asked if there was still communications. She said that has nothing to do with this and started getting angry. I explained I don't want an open M and yes it does have something to do with this. She said I get advice from friends and family etc. But I said he has crossed boundaries, that makes it different. I would not have talks about our M if he is involved. She was getting pretty upset about it and said I was being controlling. She finally said fine I will stop and then we can tell the kids quickly correct? I said I would work on it.

I have gotten the feeling that she doesn't want to process any of what has gone on in our marriage. Is that normal? She just wants to forget everything and move on. Not addressing how it makes her feel.