Hi Zephyr, His first marriage dissolved naturally...to be honest his ex is crazy. I am not saying this because she is his ex. She has a reputation. 10 yrs ago, H told me he wasn't happy and left immediately. A with co-worker. He fell off the face of the earth, dyed his hair, went tanning. Not much contact with D5 and D1 at the time. I didn't pursue. Went to court for D. Three days later he called me to ask if we could talk. He wanted to reconcile. I agreed but not without marriage counseling. He readily accepted. We are friends and enjoy each other's company. I know this EA with the OW is infatuation...she is a hs gf from 30 yrs ago. I also know he is struggling to to turn 50. Since the blow up we had on Sat there has been no R talk and he is acting fine. I am struggling to get out of my own way. My mind races and I am projecting the worst of everything. I need to stop. He says he loves me and doesn't want a D. Why can't I just accept that? I am a teacher so I work outside the home. I have been going to the gym and seeing a counselor on my own. We are still intimate and go out together. I know this thing with OW won't last, but I don't want it stuck in my brain.
