Merrick you could always just go by yourself.That way someone is getting some good out of counseling.After all even if your marriage doesn't make it (and it will) you will need counsleing to get over this.I know I will.My marriage counslor told me he wanted to see me alone if my husband wont' come.
Later Friend. Briget
The grass is always greener over the septic tank... Erma Bombeck
Treat hate with Love... DR. Martin Luther King