There is still a lot of help here even if you can't afford the coaching. Tell us more about your story. You are probably back at square one but that's ok if you still want to fight for your M. First step is to read the book again and start putting the tools to work. Detach. You've done it before so you can do it again. It seems like maybe you let her back too easy the first time. You won't make that mistake again. There are lots of people here that will chime in to offer their advice and support you while you work your way through this mess.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing