Hi Melweb, I think he's cake eating with that comment about finding you sexy (though I'm sure you are lovely of course )
But he's currently having extra-marital sex with someone else and you are thanking him for telling you he finds you sexy.
Truly, you don't need any affirmation from him at this point. You are lovely already. And if he does that again - you may want to consider telling him you find a comment like that inappropriate, given his relations with someone else.
My H seemed keen on us keeping something going soon after BD - and keen to keep seeing OW too. I told him there would never be any sort of romantic R with me, when he was having a R with someone else. I wanted no part of that. Now, you may look at my sitch and see I'm in the final stages of my D, but I have no regrets on what I told him and my self-respect is intact too.
Something to think about anyway. From what you post - my guess is he may well choose to eat more cake if he has the option.
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T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
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