Wife wants to separate at end of school year

[sandi2]

I get so mad at her for her lack of acknowledgement of what I do for her and for our children

But you previously posted that you have always done everything for her b/c that was just your makeup.

If you have read about no more mr. nice guy, then you know this ^^^ is a trait. And, getting angry b/c of her lack of acknowledgment is a negative trait nice-guys have. You see, you don't want to stop being in a service-type of role.......yet it makes you angry when there is no payoff. Perhaps your LL is acts of service, IDK. But I can tell you from experience, your method is not effective with getting her to desire the MR.

Don't kill time at the office b/c you have no GAL activities. Find something you enjoy doing. You haven't been M your entire life! Surely there is something you can do that doesn't require your W being by your side. Get out there and drive around. Look for places to go, things to attend, activities to do.

I am so alone. I thrive off affection. I feel so empty not being able to show her I really care and would do what it takes to save our marriage. Sometimes I notice some sort of sign that she cares, but that fades quickly.

You are lonely and feel empty b/c she is not showing YOU that she cares, and b/c you refuse to leave the house and GAL apart from her. Whenever I see a LBH, such as yourself, who continues to do the same thing and refuses to try what DB is suggesting........I wonder what it will take for him to wake up and see it's not working. Then sometimes he wants to blame it on DB and say DBing isn't working.

You have stopped a couple of things, which is good. Can't you just try to 180 being available to her and giving her cake to eat?

In short I am available to her. She still has all the perks of being married outside of affection. There is no reason for who to realize at this juncture that she may miss being away from me, when I am always around.

You are the only one who can do something about you.