Ahh, how quickly life changes. It looks like I will be signing the divorce papers this week. Here is the back-story:
Yesterday, d21 had a "Gender Reveal Party" for the baby she will have in August. 15 people family, friends were there. The baby was revealed to be a girl - everyone is very excited.
W and I both attended. As I was about to leave when W pulled me aside to "talk". We had issues to go over on the divorce, so I agreed.
W asked me why I had not signed her attorney's stipulated divorce papers. I shot out that I am mad about how s14 is being treated in the divorce - I told her that after the knife wielding incident, W told me that I would have s14 in March and April, and we would take a look at this in May.
I then told W that after my spine fusion surgery, I could have used having s14 around my place to help out. And then I told her I would not accept her asking for sole physical custody of s14.
W told me that she had not read the divorce agreement, and that she wants me to have custody along with her. And she also told me that she has not held s14 back from coming to my place - this was totally his decision.
Then came the bombshell. W told me that she needed me to sign the divorce papers ASAP - om is dying. And he has agreed to marry W and give his sizeable pension to her. But he was in the hospital twice last week. She needs the divorce done now.
Om is a 44 year old guy in good shape. But he did have a heart attack last June, but he continues to play baseball, so my response to W's news was "he's in good shape, he's not going to die any time soon."
W responded that om doesn't have long to live. And W really neeeeeeds this pension money to put a roof over her head, and in case any of our children need a place also.
I don't have any retirement assets. I can't pay W any alimony. So I understand her strong desire to get om's pension money. W still does not have a job.
We discussed the money W allegedly stole from me for d20's private school tuition, and W agreed that half the amount could be applied to child support. So it looks like all of the major issues are dealt with.
I don't believe that om is really close to dying. But it does make sense in putting together some of the information the children have told me about W and om's relationship. S14 told me W doesn't even like om, along with stories that he is racist, and has insulted d21's bf. I don't think W would put up with this unless there was a strong incentive for her to do so - like om's pension and his health issues.
So I am acting as my own attorney (I've done a handful of divorce cases, as well as attending the major divorce conference last year, so I've got enough background to do this). I will contact W's attorney today with the details of the changes I need and see if we can get a final agreement this week.
