Amazing how they can just jump from OM to OM isn't it? Makes one wonder why any LBH would ever consider taking them back. It it really all a frame of mind that these waywards have, some sort of revenge, or just who they really are???
It's tough. If she snaps out of this dumb behavior, and you two work it out, then you have to be aware that will take a huge amount of sh*t eating on your part. Huge amount. Some people aren't willing to eat as much sh*t as it will take to reconcile with a wayward spouse and I don't blame those people one bit. The things that our WW's put in their mouths and then come home and kiss the kids goodnight? You'd have to think about that every day but then let it all go. It's hard work my friend, really hard work. It's easier to walk away yourself. It's much harder work to stay together because, let's face it, once they've gone wayward they are forever tainted goods. That's just how it is. Things can get better over time but I'd be lying if I didn't admit that from time to time when I kiss her it pops into my head the things she's had in that mouth.
We are still in love with each other but, as we've discussed many times at MC, at the end of this sh*t storm she got a loyal clean husband that was always loyal and clean. I got an ex-cheater that did some very nasty things with other people. I think I got screwed in that deal but oh well. I love her. Although you have to eat all that sh*t, DO NOT ever be a doormat again. Be strong and know that no matter what happens you're going to be fine. You really are. Be strong, brave, and a leader of your family. She'll respect that. Any woman would.
