Hi Nel, anger is a recognised stage of MLC and some MLCers remain pretty angry for a good while - ie: through the replay stage etc.

In terms of being nice, he's probably hoping you'll accede to his wishes for a 'friendly' D, and hopes you'll fall in with his vision of what the D (and settlement) will look like.

JMHO of course xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus