From your thread on 2/18. Have you tried this? I dont mean for a day or two. But for a couple of months. Or longer.
Originally Posted By: Wonka
Based on that "talk", you're still presenting yourself as the back up option and being too readily available. That has not worked at all...it all does is to set you up for a vicious cycle of scab picking sessions. That is clearly a cheeseless tunnel that has caused you tremendous pain.
What we need to do here is to get you back on the path of getting W to find the cheese: YOU! You ask how? I'm happy to show you the way:
1-Stop talking W. No more discussions at all. 2-Stop seeking out W (texting, emails, looking out your office window, running out of your building to intercept W, etc) 3-Continue with your GAL activities 4-Time for wardrobe changes. Dress up and do sexy outfits when going to basketball games and other social activities. 5-Join a church or some spiritual center that suits your needs the best 6-Surround yourself with gentle and loving people 7-Use thought stopping techniques whenever your mind strays to W and OW. Stop signs in your head or whatever. (What worked for me was distracting myself and forcing me to think of some other things/people. Some use rubber bands. Whatever floats your boat)
ANYTIME YOU FEEL THE URGE TO CONTACT W....come here FIRST! Unload on us....or call friends just to chat about the weather until the urge passes. I have used the 24-hour or 72-hour rule where I step away from the urge to contact Ms. Wonka and it usually passes. Or slap on a pink hued duct tape for 24-72 hours until that antsy pantsy feelings went away.
