Ups and downs (II)

[Zues126]

If you asked a WAS they would say they have tried every possible way of articulating their needs and their feelings for years and that it fell on deaf ears. They would say the LBS is the one with the FOO/psychological issues and they are detaching and getting off the roller coaster and trying to give themselves a chance to meet someone that can be in a relationship that is fulfilling.

Maybe a better analogy is that the baby did talk maturely for years, but was ignored, and now is crying out of frustration and being dismissed and diagnosed.

So the most important 180 for a LBS is to actually hear and validate their partners needs. Not to latch on to the unreasonableness of their spew that doesn't make sense and ignore the truth behind much of what they are saying. Because I can promise that for a man there is no bigger turn off than to open up only to be ignored like they are a whiny child.