He was unhappy? So what did he do to change that? How much happiness did he bring into the R on a daily basis? Was he relying on you to make him happy?

I think happiness comes from the inside, for the most part.

It sounds like his wish and failure to enforce his standards onto you is what made him unhappy.

M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17