Thanks for the words of encouragement from the sensitive side of my male brain.
I'll say this much for W, she never leaves me at a loss for soemthing to say. This morning started poorly because I had changed the paswords on our credit card online statements several months ago, and W thought I was hiding things (which I am--DB coaching). I stated calmly that I change them every few months for security and said I'd work to get her back up.
Later, she started telling me about the beach houses she liked, how they were more expensive then she hoped, and the potential for renting for four weeks instead of three. It was as animated an exchange as any we've had in at least a month (I'll have to check).
We then hurried off to church, and when we got back, we talked about the cost of a beach house and our outdoor pool. To be honest, it's more than we can afford--and this forced me to drop the S bomb. Basically, I told W where I live forces the affordability issue. If I move out and sdend and extra $2500/per month, then a beach house is not affordable. She just looked at me distressed.
We then went to her aunt's house for easter dinner and somewhere just after the Masters ended, there was shouting in the kitchen between W and her father (FIL). Evidently, it had something to do with the problems of W's other sister, but W said to her father that unless you had a perfect family with three kids (W's Brother and SIL), then W's parents didn't car about them. FIL was practically crying and yelled to W "Go to hell; you don't know how good you have it," and FIL and MIL left shortly thereafter.
W went out for a bit and remained pleasant. But I knew the storm would arrive when we got home--which it did. In fact, as soon as the door closed behind us at her aunt's house, the scowl arrived. W was snarly, mad, and nasty, but fortunately she stormed out. So here I sit and type. The only good thing in this is that FIL/MIL may turn their attention to W's issues and realize that my leaving is not the solution for now. But that's too much wishful thinking.
