Yes, I've been nice for about the first three months then I discovered she was secretly plotting a D while I was executing the recommended plan. Then I found this site and started to detach from her. However, I have not found that it made much difference for her as well. I have been acting happy and "as if" when I'm with her, she was a little curious but she didn't pursue things. I have not completely shut her down because our activities with our son are so intertwined it would be very painful to stop cold-turkey.


Me-LBH, 48
Spouse-WW, 48
Married for 19 years
Son, 12
BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding)
BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA)
WW filed D February 2016
WW moved out April 2016